Straight Community voicesHeterosexual male, 32 years old, USAI have always been quite comfortable in my sexuality and the sexuality of those around me. It has never crossed my mind that looking at another man and admitting he was handsome was something to be ashamed of. That emboldened American machoism never suited me . . . and I'm originally from the Midwest! One of the reasons I feel at home living in a city like Copenhagen is that there is less of homophobic attitude. Granted there is prejudice to be found, but it is minimal compared to where I come from. I guess you could say I am prejudice against people who are prejudice toward the homosexual community. But I know this doesn't solve the problem. Education and compassion are the two elements we need to embrace as a human race if we are going to make it. I love to see people in love whether they be homo or hetero. Hell, if you have to find love in the acquaintance of a cat, DO IT! The greatest gift we have as a species is the ability to give love and receive love. And for that reason, I feel extremely grateful to have experienced both in my lifetime. Heterosexual Woman, 25 years old, SpainWell actually I have never reflected on my heterosexuality so to speak, but I can remember that since I was a girl I have always been attracted to boys, I had no doubt about it . The difference was that when I met a pretty or charming girl, I just thought "wow, such a pair of beautiful eyes, or such a nice face or she is so lovely!!! and inmediatly after I just wanted to look and behave like her imitating her clothing, her hairstyle.....However I was not sexually attracted to those things, I just used them in order to get some little inspiration so I could be attractive and appealing for others. On the other hand when I meet a guy that I think he is handsome and whose personality I like, I do feel attracted to him. C'est la vie! Heterosexual female, 28, SpainWell, my heterosexuality has conditioned my life in such a way that it has made it easier for me to experience it than if I for example had been homosexual or bisexual ( although I do not think you could label anyone as "bisexual", from my modest point of view I believe that you either are gay or straight). I believe that being heterosexual has made my life easier than if I were gay, due to the fact that heterosexuality is the sexual orientation that most people in our society have and the only one accepted by everybody. Thus I have never had the necessity of reflecting upon my sexual orientation, since mine is the most widespread sexual orientation and the one that we generally encounter openly in society, when watching films, reading books, or generally speaking: in life. I have never questioned whether my sexual orientation was"right" or not, nor I had come across the unpleasant situation of being forced to explaining to my family or friends what my sexual orientation was. This is something that has been taken for granted and therefore I have never experienced an identity crisis, doubts, marginalisation or other kind of problems that homosexual adolescents normally are to encounter. Because of my sexual orientation I will not have problems when getting married, if I want to have children in a natural way, or in similar situations. OK, right now I may face the same problems as if I were lesbian, bi, trans or asexual, but in theory It would be easier for me. Am I happy for being heterosexual? Well, I believe I have had an advantage when having relationships with other persons since we, heterosexuals, have a wider range of possibilities than homosexuals. If I were gay I would probably have to confine myself in the gay village, associations, concrete Internet sites etc. Besides, being a gay male is fashionable but being lesbian is by all means not, so I would come off worst. Meeting homosexuals has not made me to wonder about my sexual orientation. For me when going out or when establishing a relationship with someone sexuality is not a big deal, unless I would like to get off with the given person of course.... LOL! I also definitely believe it is selfish the habit that some homosexuals have in dragging their heterosexual friends into the gay venues each time they want to go out!!! ( which is not my case). Heterosexual female, 28, DenmarkI rarely think of my orientation, but I did have a few incidents with homosexuals that were attracted to me, which made me flattered, and curious, and at one occasion, when I was 18 I flirted with a girl and with the idea that maybe I was into my own sex? But I found it strange as the night moved on the fact that she did not have a penis, but breasts like me. That showed me that this was an important signal. I simply found her physical body sweet and soft, and it was nice, but, something was just missing. I think I needed the opposite pole of me in order to be attracted. This might be a psychological effect, it probably is. It is the same if I met a guy with a small penis. I am simply put off with the fact that I cannot get an orgasm, or not that easily and I totally loose interest. It is quite awful to say, but it is the truth: I do not think I will change my sexual orientation, I am too much into latino MACHO guys, but one can never predict the future. Heterosexual male 31, DenmarkIt has never been a question of thinking whether I was more attracted to women or men. I can hardly tell if this monopolisation of the women in my sexual orientation is genetic, social or a mix, I simply respond to a very immediate feeling of physical exhilaration which I have never had towards any guy. When I was a teenager I did have some thoughts about how it would be kissing a guy, but it really never made me feel anything, when I tried to imagine it. I have this good friend of mine (heterosexual guy, so far ;-) who says maybe one day him and I will end up kissing and that we can never know if we will be sexually attracted to each other one day. I find his statement interesting but I hardly believe that I will kiss him one day, except for on the cheek. |
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